One of the most difficult trials of a family is when your teen gets pregnant. It is a shameful situation by our cultural, moral and religious ethics. This
singular event can tear a family apart because the blame is always on the mother. In fact, it is a most disappointing situation. Teen pregnancy
generates a lot of tension at home and this may cause the child to run away. She may also make an attempt at abortion which is dangerous for her life. It
may also drive her to suicide because parents do not tolerate such irresponsibility and family disgrace. There is always the question of the man
responsible for the pregnancy. That man needs to be identified so that the child will have identity. The family is in a lot of turmoil when your teen is
pregnant. Teen pregnancy is also adolescent pregnancy. Teen age is between the ages of 13 to 20. It is important to note that parents must take
responsibility for this. Even if it is from sexual abuse, it can happen as parents are not available most times to raise their children. A good number of children
taught themselves what they know in life. No sex education nor rules are put in place. Parents are too busy chasing after money and careers. Parents
expose the teens to environments where they are vulnerable and at the mercy of a sexual relationship. For instance, many times young girls have
crushes over the fancy Pastors of today who take advantage of them. Also sex happens right inside the homes with adults living in the homes. Parents
come home worn out and stressed so are not attentive to the happenings at home. They may not be able to notice when their teen gets pregnant.
Teen pregnancy is mostly unwanted. As a result the child is not married and the male is not known. This puts a lot of anxiety on parents. The girl
may or may not know the father of her child . She may not even be aware of the existence of the pregnancy. It is therefore wise for parents to unravel
the identity of the person that got her pregnant. The male could be an older adult or a peer. Usually, the teen must have been having a relationship or
could have been molested. However, parents need to identify the father of the unborn child. Keep anger and quarreling at bay , establish claim so that
the child has an identity. The identity of the responsible man clears the issue of who will care for mother and child. Where the man is not able to,
parents unfortunately should bear the burden. Many times, sending the teen away from home does not solve the problem, rather that move may
endanger her life. Punishing her at this point does not clean off the scandal. So , calm your anger and manage the situation with wisdom. The well
being of the teen is at stake now because there could be some complications that may arise from the pregnancy.
Having established the identity of father, register the teen for prenatal care in a hospital. This maybe the first pregnancy of the child, and may lead to
unknown complications. Some complications include high blood pressure, STDs [sexually transmitted diseases], HIV, premature births, low birth
weight and more. https://www.webmd.com/baby/teen-pregnancy-medical-risks-and-realities#2 Teen pregnancies have common complications.
Depression sets in also as a result of the stress of the unplanned , unwanted pregnancy. Parents try to cover the shame by opting for abortion. This is not
acceptable because it is unethical, immoral and questions your spiritual integrity. Besides, what if your daughter dies in the attempt? Again, when a
teen is pregnant, she can have suicidal thoughts. Some carry it out just to avoid the wrath of their parents. Prenatal care prepares the teen not only
physically but mentally. She needs as much moral support as she can get because she has no husband to support her. Forgive this child, and help her ride through the storm.
When your teen is pregnant, it will cost a lot to keep her and her baby safe. The cost of prenatal, feeding, preparing for the baby, all cost money. Most
likely, the responsible male may be young without any source of income. The family, if available, may not have the means to support. When she eventually
puts to bed, the hospital bills must be paid. Teen pregnancy is not a simple financial burden to carry. The entire welfare of the teen lays heavily on her
family. To even feed her to be healthy, will be a challenge. Worse, the teen’s mother maybe expecting as well so this will be a double jeopardy. This is truly a bad trial for any family.
A pregnant teen is a sad child. Her awkward body causes shame and embarrassment. Isolation and worry get in the way and she struggles inside
because the future is uncertain for her and her baby. Furthermore, if the teen is a student, she becomes the laughing stock of her peers. Please help
her emotional well being. Emotional support will help her have a safe delivery. If parents are not able to provide emotional support, seek an adult
who can be her confidant. It is indeed a very trying situation for any family. Moreover, an unwanted pregnancy can be as a result of rape and child
molestation so depression can set in. You don ‘t want this child more depressed because some can commit suicide. Depression is one of the
triggers for suicide. Especially post delivery depression. When your teen is pregnant, she is going to go into depression because her life automatically grinds to a halt. https://familyfaculties.com/2020/05/31/depression-and-african-women/?_thumbnail_id=373
After the baby is born, parents need to rehabilitate the child. She may have made a mistake but do not stone her to death. Her life can still go on fruitfully, and
she can take it back after delivery. If she was still in school, send her back to continue. Encourage her to get back her fire for her academics. A lot of times, parents
abandon the erring teen to damnation. She becomes a desperate school drop out who unleashes anger at parents who did not direct her in the early
years. It is also important to make her aware of a possibility of another pregnancy. This can happen if she is still ignorant of what led to the first
pregnancy. It is futile to shame her much more than she is ashamed already. Remember, it is a mistake that tosses her into a harsh society that will judge
her. Admonish her after the delivery and rehabilitate her. It is difficult to get teen mum to realign herself and pick up where she stopped in her
academics, but parents must think of her future and help her. She will be the person to raise her child in future so she needs a source of income. It is
not fair on her as the man that got her pregnant , continues his life while her own comes to a halt. Help her get back on track. This maybe difficult
but it is achievable. Do not allow your family to scatter when your teen is pregnant.
At this point, we must realize that teen pregnancy maybe unwanted but what do we do to avoid it. Are you allowing unnecessary and uninformed
relationship between your ignorant daughter and a male? Do you know your daughter’s friends and what they discuss? Do you have the time to talk
and listen to her questions? What does she know about sex? Have you abandoned her to get knowledge of sex and contraceptives from unknown
people? Are you discussing realities of life or are you wallowing in the fantasy of having a perfect child? Bad girls do not get pregnant rather
ignorant girls do. Are you the Dad that abandons the raising of a girl child to Mum alone. Must girls be in the kitchen and be domestic only? No, Dad
can talk through some facts with daughters especially if there is a good relationship. Mum, do not decide your daughter is slothful because she is
talking to a boy. She most likely will never confide in you. Build a good relationship and fortify her with self confidence that stands in the face of
challenges to her person. Equip her with information and help her insist on ‘NO’ when it is required. It is sacrosanct that teens be prepared before any
pregnancy takes place. Let them understand the consequences of sex and emphasize that the only cure for pregnancy is not to be pregnant.